Scars:

Slender bodies, wounded hearts, huge muscles, and insane minds. That is what happens when you pretend to be physically perfect. Superficial is overrated. We’re terrified of what society will say. It is damage that hurts our self-esteem. A natural body with scars is socially unacceptable. Our heads are arbitrarily full of trashy stereotypes. I used to believe in the absurd idea of “young women should not have stretch marks “but, even men have stretch marks. It is a normal change that your skin has. When I speak about scars, I mean feelings that stay in our souls to hurt us. That is why in this essay I’m going to share with you about my own scars; also, I will speak about believing in a false image; and finally, I will talk about soul scars.

One of my complexes always has been my body markings and how my body used to be. Well, when I was eleven years old, I used to be chubby, and some people told me that the combination between my weight and my height made me appear very badly. I looked in a mirror and I would say, why am I so ugly? Comparing my body and hating my height hurt me a lot. This reminds me once that my mom had bought a girdle that she never wore, so I stared to wear it for long time; I couldn’t be without that girdle, I had to use it. I felt good when I looked in the mirror. The problem was that the fake feeling was momentary. One day the sash tore and I felt free, because it was like being in jail for me. Suddenly, I lost weight and people told me that I looked better then when I was chubby. I would cry at that time because they didn’t care about my feelings. What people ignored was that I was in depression. My self-esteem was down. Nonetheless, I grew up, little by little and by myself I was able to recover from those scars that for a long time made me feel in the worst way. I know that I’m not perfect, and my aim isn’t that. I faced my complex problems every day. My experience made me stronger. Of course, some comments still affect me, but I know that I’m not the problem. I love myself; I love my scars. No one has the right to comment about you.

For example: I’m not against editing content or plastic surgeries, I guess they’re useful and an invaluable breakthrough. Nevertheless, I disagree with the excess that damages your mind and your body, over specially if we do it to be socially accepted. Our health should be our priority. Stereotypes affect a lot of people every single day and the age doesn’t matter. But, what about happens with social media and the internet? It is a massive problem, and here’s when the two faces of social media and internet come in. I think this problem wasn’t known before because all these resources didn’t exist. However, now it’s possible to judge through a screen. It is an awesome resource that can help people to recover from low self-esteem and depression. Unfortunately, most of us don’t keep the balance between reality and false image. I know, it is an awkward subject that we keep in the darkness, but someone had to give the first step to talk about it.

What do scars really mean for me? Well, for me are they are intangible, they stay within you. Something that at one point was a wound that doesn’t hurt anymore but will be in yourself forever. Scars happen to help us overcome situations. The bigger the scar, the harder the process was. I’m full of them, but they only showed me how strong I am and the importance of self-love. A key piece helped me to overcome my complexes was social media. I didn’t have enough confidence towards my parents, so I could not tell them my problem to contact a professional. But, social media was my light sun. I realized that I wasn’t the unique person with scars. It was impressive to know how many people were insecure of themselves like I was. Nevertheless, the most important here is the way that I took advantage from social media resources to help myself.

To summarize, the way we are is unique, so don’t let others hurt you. Your body and your mind are what is relevant. Society is full of stereotypes that were made to make you lose the faith in yourself; be careful of stereotypes that make you compare yourself with others and being in a constant internal conflict. Nobody is like you in this world, all of you is special, from your head to your feet. So, live a happy life, take care of your health because our time on earth is limited.